You did a great job raising me. You taught me everything you know. You showed me the importance of sticking up for myself, working hard and of having a great relationship with the Lord. You helped me learn how to manage money and navigate relationships. I am so thankful for the times we spend together and the memories we made. You helped shape me into the person I am today. I am more prepared to take on the world because of you. Thank you.
Growing up isn’t always as fun as the movies made it seem. There are days when I still wish I was a little girl. As the first born, I was the “guinea pig” from the time I was born to the time I graduated high school (and still now as I am the first to get married.) My parents have taught me everything I know, including the importance of being independent. I can imagine it was probably pretty difficult, initially, for my parents to accept my moving to Missouri at the age of 18. Yet, they encouraged me to go nonetheless because it was time to put everything I had learned under their protection and guidance to the ultimate test: navigating adulthood. Although they were only a phone call away, I still had to begin learning the ways of adulthood on my own.
Although I am sure it can be tempting to want to shove your child under a rock where you know they will be safe and secure, they need to learn to navigate the world on their own. It is important that we figure things out for ourselves. Will we fail miserably? Yes, probably. Will we go home and cry in our pillows? I don’t know about you, but I have in the past and probably will in the future. It may be painful to watch at times, but that’s the best way for us to learn. If we don’t fall hard we may never understand the power of picking ourselves back up and giving it another go.
The world is a wonderful place, but it can also be a cruel place. Sheltering us from that cruelty does not save us or protect us It will eventually hurt us because we will be less equipped to deal with it in the future.
You have taught us the right way and now it’s time to let us spread our own wings and figure this crazy world out for ourselves. Don’t worry, even as mature adults, we’ll still come back for your guidance.
What can you do today to help your child gain some independence?
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